O Solo Mia

I take offense to your post, my friend! Your basic assumption that the only thing to do when single is going to bars and getting wasted in search of the next boyfriend is completely off base. Trust me, I too am completely grossed out by guys in bars and they are probably equally grossed out by the girls that frequent their favorite places. Yes, I know that there are some truly heartwarming stories about so and so's parents meeting in a bar and being married for 5,000 years. Touching. But the reality of the situation is, most people (both single and not) go to bars to get laid. One quick word in defense of bars: it is possible to go out and not participate in the meat market! I definitely have a lot more fun with a group of friends and when I'm unconcerned about getting attention from the man-whores that surround me.

Which brings me to my next point: the whole glory of being single is about being unconcerned about what anyone else thinks! As soon as you let the search for the next boyfriend go, things get a lot more relaxed. You start doing things just because they make you happy, not because someone else might think they're cool. You get in touch with what you really want. All of which not only makes you a better person, but a more attractive girlfriend in the future. So what if the pickings are slim right now? If you make having a boyfriend a lower priority, then it doesn't really matter--your life is full and happy without one.

What about all the crappy parts of being tied down? The monotony of boning the same person over and over, hearing their same jokes/stories for the 50th time (at least when you're telling different people, it's always new!), the inevitable rut you get into after a little while...boring! And what's not boring is annoying: putting the toilet seat down, those pointless & irritating fights about the right way to do ___, having to compromise or agree about what to do and where to go, etc etc ad nauseum. I say, enjoy your freedom from this crap--if marriage is your end goal, you have your whole freakin' life to put up with BS from men. At this point, be selfish! Being single=doing whatever you want. Which is awesome.