I am freaking sick of He's Just Not That Into You. This book has been around for a few years now and has spawned a pocket guide, "your daily wake-up call," and now a movie?! The thing most people don't realize is that Greg Behrendt, the author, is a stand-up comedian. The fact that people are latching onto this book and spouting its ideas like gospel is, well, laughable.
The basic premise of this book seems to be that women are completely blind and hopeless at managing relationships--they get slighted at every turn by guys who won't commit or are using them for sex. Oh, Greg Behrendt, how did we ever get along without you and your oversimplified generalizations?
Everyone gets slighted at some point in their life and needs to step back and realize that the relationship just isn't what they thought/hoped it could be. This goes for guys and girls. It's part of life and growing up to figure out what you will and won't put up with, and this book skews women's expectations of how a man should act. If he likes you, he'll be completely devoted to you. If he was really into you, he'd call immediately. Whatever--it totally discounts any and all other explanations of behavior, like crappy advice from friends ("Dude. Obey the 3 day rule--don't want to seem too eager").
Another thing about this book that I wholeheartedly object to is the end goal: marriage. Even good ol' Greggy is praised as having been single for a long time (so he knows all the tricks) but now is happily married. Ah, happily ever after. What every woman (and apparently man, eventually) wants. I think we all need to relax a little and deal with guys and situations on an individual basis. Ladies, put this book where it belongs: in the recycle bin.
